There is a story I keep hearing. It is about a parent/caregiver murdering or attempting to murder her child. The parent’s name changes. The child’s name changes.
But the rest of the details of the story pretty much remain the same. Tired mother/father/caregiver. Not enough support. Not enough services. Unmanageable/aggressive/violent child.
The caregiver is left with no other option but to kill the child. We should all feel sorry that this caregiver was driven to such ends–who wouldn’t be? Dealing with an Autistic child is misery–a prison sentence and no one helps.
That’s what I keep reading.
And I’m OUTRAGED. And if you’re not outraged by this appallingly predictable script, then you’re part of the problem. You’re PART of the story.
First it was Alex. Actually there have been countless before Alex. I’m talking about the stories I’ve read in the past week.
Poor Alex’s mother. Alex was awful. Alex was Autistic. All of the quackery in the world couldn’t cure Alex. So his mother tried to kill him with sleeping pills. That didn’t work so she stabbed him 4 times. In the chest. Then she slit her child’s wrists. Did I mention that this mother turned down several different offers of help? The practical ones that came in the form of not curing her child–but caring for him. Some label this a mercy killing.
Then today, there is Issy. Her mother tried to kill her after sharing the most intimate details of her child’s life with the world–on her blog, in the media, where ever. Branding her violent–for life. Posted her picture. No privacy for that child. And then she tried to kill her. And failed. Issy will likely have permanent brain damage as a result of her mother’s vicious attack on her person.
Let’s be very clear. Lack of services did not kill/attempt to kill either of these children. They were both attacked by their mothers.
There is ALWAYS an alternative to killing. Always. They CHOSE to kill their children. Would these children not be better off as wards of the state than dead?
Spinning this story to even imply that the child’s nature is to blame is unimaginably horrific. Suggestion that these caregivers deserve the slightest bit of empathy for brutally attacking their children is infuriating.
Mothers that kill their children are as cold-blooded as murderers come. To desecrate, the mother/child relationship, the most sacred of relationships is to sink to the lowest depths of evil.
And I don’t hold people that justify murder or empathize with depraved child killers in much higher esteem. Because that tells me that you could conceive of it, yourself.
Mothers that love their children don’t kill them. It is that simple. And people that have the smallest iota of humanity, they don’t make allowances for the mothers that do.
Decent people do not partake in any form of child murder victim blaming. They don’t.